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Some of you have keys on your keychain and you don't even know what they're for anymore. Sometimes we hang on to problems the same kind of way. One thing that we often confuse holding on to crumbs with is our self-worth.
When somebody hurts me, I sometimes get really obsessed with it and have conversations with that person, fantasizing that I'm getting validation back. This is what we're looking for. We're looking for validation that it wasn't okay, some kind of acknowledgement.
If we let go without that acknowledgement, it feels like we're not worthy of being treated well, so we hold on to stuff to make sure it wasn't okay someone did something to hurt us.
When something bad happens or someone is mean to us, we often blame ourselves. These kinds of situations are really chaotic and our mind wants to make sense of them. The fastest way to do that is to go to blame and we tend to blame ourselves.
Really, at the same time as knowing that someone hurt us, and that's invalidating, we're invalidating ourselves. Instead, we could start by validating ourselves by understanding that it wasn't okay someone did something hurtful.
The most important thing you can do is allow yourself to feel hurt. Once you allow yourself to be hurt, you’ll feel validated and it is easy to let go.
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