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If you're not happy in your relationship, it affects your mind, body and soul. Here's four questions you can ask yourself to get started in thinking about your future.
1. Am I staying because I don't want to be alone?
We always think that it's this person or nothing. That's just not the case. The other possibilities are unknown and scary but definitely not nothing.
2. I am beating myself up?
Do you feel like you failed? Making a conscious decision to leave a relationship, or to stay, doesn't mean failure. Stop judging yourself because that just makes this situation a whole lot harder.
3. Am I afraid about what other people think?
If people react badly to you breaking up with someone that they love, it's more about their emotional issues than it is about you. You can't change people so don't worry too much.
4. Are there power issues?
This could be very subtle or outwardly violent. You want to get yourself some support so you could see the situation in a different way.
Thank you so much for listening!