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Love Yourself Up with Jodi Aman

Anxiety-buster, Love-spreader, Speaker, Author of "You 1 Anxiety 0." http://amzn.to/1SmNKpmt Watch video: 20 Ways to Calm from Panic http://anxiety-freeme.com http://JodiAman.com Fan me on FB: http://facebook.com/jodiama... Follow me on twitter: http://twitter.com/jodiaman
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Sep 18, 2015

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Some of you have keys on your keychain and you don't even know what they're for anymore. Sometimes we hang on to problems the same kind of way. One thing that we often confuse holding on to crumbs with is our self-worth. 

When somebody hurts me, I sometimes get really obsessed with it and have conversations with that person, fantasizing that I'm getting validation back. This is what we're looking for. We're looking for validation that it wasn't okay, some kind of acknowledgement. 

If we let go without that acknowledgement, it feels like we're not worthy of being treated well, so we hold on to stuff to make sure it wasn't okay someone did something to hurt us.

When something bad happens or someone is mean to us, we often blame ourselves. These kinds of situations are really chaotic and our mind wants to make sense of them. The fastest way to do that is to go to blame and we tend to blame ourselves. 

Really, at the same time as knowing that someone hurt us, and that's invalidating, we're invalidating ourselves. Instead, we could start by validating ourselves by understanding that it wasn't okay someone did something hurtful. 

The most important thing you can do is allow yourself to feel hurt. Once you allow yourself to be hurt, you’ll feel validated and it is easy to let go.


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Sep 16, 2015

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Summary:

 

Building your self-confidence is a skill that you can learn. It's something that you can build if you work on it. The most important thing that you can do to build your self-confidence is practice. If you try something and practice it then you build confidence in yourself in doing it. 

 

One of the best things you could do to build your self-esteem and self-confidence is commit to something small every day that you could definitely do. Then every day you do it, and you see yourself committed to that thing, that's going to build your self-esteem naturally. 

 

The second thing you can do to build your self-confidence is use affirmations like, “it's possible that there could be something good about me.” When you repeat the affirmation, you begin to build your self-confidence.

 

The third thing is to hang out with people who see the good in you and surround yourself with people who are uplifting and happy and can reflect back the wonderful person that you are. 

 

Try these three ways to build confidence in yourself and see what opens up for you. 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 14, 2015

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Why you think it is so hard to feel -- There are many reasons we don't want to feel a feeling, but it usually leads back to guilt and fear. 

 

Thinking something is wrong with what we feel can cause so many problems in our lives. An unfelt, unresolved feeling, especially one we judge to be pathological can reek havoc on our emotions, relationships, and identity.

 

The stories about the feelings and what happened –  blaming ourselves and blaming others – that fill our head, have us run away from feelings. This is why it takes so long to heal. We think a feeling is unbearable, yet we are willing to endure years of self torture with stories of blame, fear, and guilt cluttering our minds.

 

When we allow ourselves to feel, without the story, just feel, it can go away faster than you ever imagine. I'll explain in this podcast.

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 11, 2015

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There are four ways that creativity helps the brain and I encourage everybody to take on something creative in their life.

 

1. Physically

Pain starts in the brain rather than the joints or muscles. When people are engaging in a creative activity or social activity, they experience less pain.

It also stimulates those parts of the brain that we need stimulating to help us recover from our past.

 

2. Mentally

Doing something takes up that mental space from other stressful things that are often going through our minds.

 

3. Emotionally

When we do something creative, we see the product of our labors and can fell good about it. This helps us trust ourselves and raises our self-esteem.

 

4. Spiritually

Engaging in something creative helps us live out our life purpose. It helps us realize the gifts that we have and share them with the world. We become more connected and more purposeful in our life and this helps us mind, body and soul. This changes the way we see the world and the way we see ourselves.

There are so many creative ways to heal your brain physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Try something easy today.

Me? I garden, write, schedule my family's social activities, keep my house organized, and make herbal remedies and shoot and edit videos.


What creative projects are you involved in?

 

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Sep 9, 2015

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The fear of flying is a pretty common fear, but to me, it was my dirty little secret. I looked at all of my anxiety that way, finding it humiliating to be afraid.  

 

Well, I found out that I wasn’t a wimp. And if you are scared of something, I don’t think you are a wimp either. I just had to break a habit and I can show you how.

 

We can create situations of fear or pleasure by our thoughts, feelings and expectations. Why choose fear? 

 

Now it is time for you to have an adventure. Where would you go if you weren’t afraid to fly? 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 7, 2015

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When our kids have anxiety, we often feel helpless, which makes us feel anxious! You can help them feel better using the suggestions in this episode.

To review:

1. Help them feel empowered
2. Offer a carrot
3. Have confidence in them
4. Get them in the door
5. Ease test and performance anxiety

School Anxiety is recoverable! I’ve seen people get over it all the time. 

If you have had trouble with school anxiety or anxiety about going anywhere, what tips can you give other readers? 

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 4, 2015

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If you're not happy in your relationship, it affects your mind, body and soul. Here's four questions you can ask yourself to get started in thinking about your future. 

1. Am I staying because I don't want to be alone? 

We always think that it's this person or nothing. That's just not the case. The other possibilities are unknown and scary but definitely not nothing. 

2. I am beating myself up? 

Do you feel like you failed? Making a conscious decision to leave a relationship, or to stay, doesn't mean failure. Stop judging yourself because that just makes this situation a whole lot harder.

3. Am I afraid about what other people think? 

If people react badly to you breaking up with someone that they love, it's more about their emotional issues than it is about you. You can't change people so don't worry too much. 

4. Are there power issues? 

This could be very subtle or outwardly violent. You want to get yourself some support so you could see the situation in a different way.

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 2, 2015

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Summary of podcast:

We all get angry sometimes.

Anger freaks people out. They don't want to feel it anymore and they feel like that's not the way they want to be in the world.

The way to get rid of your anger is to allow yourself to feel angry. There's always a reason for it. Somebody hurt you or somebody wasted your time or disrespected you. What happens is, we get angry and then we judge ourself about it. 

Do you know what that does? That just makes it more powerful over us. If you allowed yourself to feel and understood your original anger as totally appropriate, then you'd have compassion for yourself. This changes anger. It dissipates.

When we're angry, we are upset about something that is precious to us that has been lost or threatened. If you know what this is and acknowledge and validate it, then your anger dissolves.

Having compassion yourself is the key.

When you allow anger, you stop holding on to it. And in this way, you're letting that you, that you want to be, shine through.

Thank you so much for listening!

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