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Love Yourself Up with Jodi Aman

Anxiety-buster, Love-spreader, Speaker, Author of "You 1 Anxiety 0." http://amzn.to/1SmNKpmt Watch video: 20 Ways to Calm from Panic http://anxiety-freeme.com http://JodiAman.com Fan me on FB: http://facebook.com/jodiama... Follow me on twitter: http://twitter.com/jodiaman
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Aug 17, 2015

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Read transcription of this podcast here: http://jodiaman.tumblr.com/post/125532764254 

 

Summary:

 

About a year ago, I made a video about OCD and it caused a lot of controversy because I think people didn't understand it. I've been working with people with OCD for a really long time and I've known a lot of people really close to me that have obsessions and compulsions that lead them to do patterns. 

 

Sometimes they're just doing patterns and it's mildly annoying and other times it is so annoying and overwhelming that it takes up a big portion of their lives.

 

This causes a huge amount of suffering. 

 

People come and go into this state of being. Often people stay in it for a really long time and it gets worse, and there's less and less they feel they can do in their lives. What I notice about all of these people is that there's something that drives that. 

 

Usually it's guilt and shame. 

 

I understand this because I see this as the root of so many problems in our life -- fear, guilt, and shame. If we really unpack them, these roots are under all of our problems -- all of them. So why wouldn't they be the root of OCD?

 

What I started to notice when I'm working with people with OCD and OCPD is that there's this guilt and shame about doing their patterns. Then, they get really frustrated, overwhelmed, and hate the fact they have this problem. This frustration and overwhelm is bigger in energy than the original pattern, which makes them more obsessed. 

 

The more we pay attention to something because we're frustrated with it, the more energy we give it, and the more obsessed we get with it. If we can get rid of some of that shame and guilt about doing the patterns, we can cut them down exponentially. 

 

Guilt and shame feeds the OCD. It gives it more power. Many people are angry and get really shamed about it, which increases their anger. They do this before they even realize it, so they just think they have an anger problem. 

 

When I'm working with people, we ultimately want to stop their patterns, but first I want to take away the guilt and shame about doing them. When we take the energy out of the pattern and obsession, people stop them so much easier than when they’re addressing it, trying to get themselves to stop. 

 

Of course some patterns do hurt or harm you, so we want to stop those. But those little patterns that just drive you nuts, like making sure all of the drawers are closed or flipping the light on and off ten times -- you're not hurting anybody. Right now, try to take the guilt and shame out of it and see if you could take the power out of it. 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 14, 2015

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In this podcast I speak about 5 ways to bring out that love and connection that you so desperately want from your significant other. 

These help in any kind of relationship because they make people feel good. And when people feel good, they feel close and happy and want to be with you more and more. 

Please share because we want everyone in the world to have an uplifting and loving relationship! 

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 12, 2015

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My Five Rules To Life:

1. Do hard things
2. Make people important
3. Step back
4. Take risks
5. Be creative

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 10, 2015

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Find out about my online anxiety recovery programs:

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Read an extended summary of this podcast here: http://jodiaman.tumblr.com/post/115753128319/generate-happiness-in-four-minutes

 

I believe we all have the ability to reach beyond our experiences. To grow and open our mind rather than keep living our negative story. 

 

You are amazing and beautiful and worthy.

 

I know things are hard, but they don’t have to stay hard. Life has loads of beautiful things to offer. You deserve them. 

 

Stick with me, I have more to share to help you continue to bloom into the being your called to be. You are in there, it’s time to shine through. 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 7, 2015

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Ways To De-Clutter Your Home:

1. Touch things once
2. Two hands in, two hands out
3. Do your dishes as you go along
4. Complete projects
5. Deliver right away
6. Let go of perfectionism
7. Limituse of coupons
8. Make recycling easy

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 5, 2015

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Read commentary of this podcast at http://jodiaman.com/de-mystifying-self-love/ and add to the discussion! 

 

Read an extended summary of this podcast here: http://jodiaman.tumblr.com/post/115300443659/de-mystifying-self-love

 

In this podcast I am De-Mystifying Self-Love and I'm answering the four most asked questions:

 

1. How do you get it?

2. How do you know you have it?

3. What does it feel like?

4. How do you nurture it? 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Aug 3, 2015

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Read commentary of this podcast at http://jodiaman.com/dealing-overwhelm-intense-stress-burn/ and add to the discussion!

Read transcription of this podcast here: http://jodiaman.tumblr.com/post/125279111934

 

Summary:

For so long in my life, I felt like I was trying to heal myself while I was in the midst of everything else going on. Raising my babies, building my business, nurturing my relationship, and honing my skills as a counselor. I was in survival mode big time and I wasn't really giving myself the time that I needed. 

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by your life? Do you ever wonder why you don't take care of yourself? Why getting tasks done means more than healing and feeling calm? It's because healing isn't tangible. You can't check it off a list. It takes time and concentration. 

This is what I learned about giving myself time to heal from being overwhelmed and burned out:

1. I need respite and acknowledgement.

I haven't made time for respite. I had to have a break from surviving my life and spent some time with myself to reflect. I created a space in my home where I could meditate and made myself spend time there. I scheduled a walk into my day and I periodically went on retreat. The first retreat that I went on changed my life. 

2. I had to get a community to support and acknowledge me.

My girlfriends rocked for this. It's because we're only ourself in relationships so we need to see ourself through other people's eyes. And when people acknowledge you, it lifts you up. When you're isolated, you just go deeper into depression. See, we're social beings and having witnesses to our journey is so important to us as humans.

This is why I offer live retreats. They are a break from life where you can focus on being your own healer and you can build a community of like minded folks who could become your touchstones long after the retreats over. 

Some of my best friends I made while on retreat and I've seen some of my retreatants make incredible connections too. 

I want to encourage you all to make some time for yourself to take a break from that hustle and bustle. To meditate or walk. Or just sit with your tea in the morning. And make sure that you have a friend or two, or a community, that you could feel like you belong to. Surround yourself with those who can lift you up and love you up. 

Learn more about my Love Yourself Up Retreat September 11-13, 2015: http://jodiaman.com/love-yourself-up-retreat/

 

Thank you so much for listening!

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