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Love Yourself Up with Jodi Aman

Anxiety-buster, Love-spreader, Speaker, Author of "You 1 Anxiety 0." http://amzn.to/1SmNKpmt Watch video: 20 Ways to Calm from Panic http://anxiety-freeme.com http://JodiAman.com Fan me on FB: http://facebook.com/jodiama... Follow me on twitter: http://twitter.com/jodiaman
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Dec 14, 2015

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Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by all the trauma happening in the world? There’s so much war going on, and then there’s earthquakes and tsunamis and all these other things happening in our world. It can make us feel so overwhelmed and stressed out. 

Do you know why it’s overwhelming? It's because we feel like it’s happening to us. We have this skill in empathy that we can feel what other people are feeling. When we see people suffering we feel like it's us. 

Sometimes we get so frozen in this fear and overwhelm that it holds us back from doing things that could help the situations out in the world. We get so stuck being overwhelmed by all the trauma that we’re frozen in our lives. So then, we’re not happy and we’re not helping anybody. It’s like a lose-lose situation. When we’re frozen in our trauma and fear, we’re no good to anybody. 

You have some things to help the world and I have some things to help the world. We don’t want all that fear and stress to overwhelm us so we can’t shine through and make the world a better place. 

Today I talk about how I deal with trauma and how it may help you deal with it, too. If you can take a step back and see everything symbolically, then maybe you can take steps to educate yourself and think about what you can do to make changes towards peace in the world. 

Dec 11, 2015

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Smiling has brought many things to my life. Today I'm sharing my personal experience with smiling and why it's part of my life. I also share what stops us from smiling, how were affected by it, and why it's so important.

There are many reasons to smile. It can ease stress in your body on a cellular level and make your body feel more relaxed and calm. Another great benefit is relationship. Smiling initiates these relationships or sustains them. Listen to this to find out how smiling can help you!

Dec 7, 2015

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Do you ever wonder why anxiety comes out of the blue? You know that stress, anxiety, and overwhelming feeling we sometimes feel when we weren't even doing anything that caused it? This often leads us to really judge ourselves and think something's wrong with us. We may even think we're crazy or mentally ill. 

You are not crazy and you are not mentally ill. This is what is happening – You know that our fear is biological. It’s a biological response to something dangerous in our environment or a perceived danger in our environment. What many people don't actually know is the amygdala, that little part of our brain that triggers the parasympathetic nervous system response, works on body memory. So if our body remembers something is dangerous or there's some correlation between our body memory and something in the past that has been dangerous before, either emotionally or physically, it begins to trigger that response.

In this episode, I'm going to tell you what you can do when this happens and why there is nothing wrong with you.


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Nov 18, 2015

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I'm doing something challenging and wanted to share it with you all today. I was invited to be in a self help movie and feel kind of modest about it. Being modest can hold us back from things that we may want to try because we don't want to share about what we're doing and expose ourselves to people. All day long our brain psyches us out about trying new things. It tells us lies and holds us back.

Find out how I handle this when it comes up and what you can do about it when it comes up for you, so that you can take action and do something that you're scared of. 

Thank you so much for listening!

Nov 16, 2015

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Do you have that inner critic that is just driving you crazy every day? “You can't do this. They're not going to like you. You can't handle it.” Does this sound familiar? This kind of berating is going through our minds all the time. It’s not helping us in this world. This is so awful. Can you imagine if somebody else was saying that to you? 

You can silence your inner critic. It just takes a little bit of discipline and practice. When that critic comes into your mind, expect it. When you start to doubt and judge yourself negatively, expect it and have some compassion for yourself. 

We all want some understanding and validation. If we don't have validation, we hold on to things really tightly. If we give ourselves that validation, we can let it go really easily. I've always tried to get validation from other people. Then, I realized I could just validate myself by giving myself some compassion.

Our life is about what we pay attention to, so if you want to shine, focus on paying attention to the things that help you do that. 

Thank you so much for listening!

Nov 9, 2015

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Have you ever wondered how to love yourself when you don't like yourself very much? 

We've got all these opinions about ourselves and compare ourselves to everyone around. We think that means that we don't love ourselves. I think the problem is we don't really know what loving ourselves means. 

For me, it means just being in the present moment with myself and not having judgments at all. When we don't judge ourselves, we're having compassion for ourselves. Sometimes we don't like ourselves very much when we’re suffering immensely. But then we really desire people to understand us. Or we might defend our problem sometimes.

There is somewhere in you that does think that you're worthy and that you're worth not being treated this way. If you feel that sense of worth somewhere deep inside, you do have self-love. 

We're alive and our life has some purpose. Right now, it may not feel like it has purpose, but we can change that in a heartbeat. If you get caught up in all those negative self-judgments about yourself, you’ll really feel like you don't like yourself when that's not even the case. 

You are a human being in this world, you're worthy and you are amazing. 

Thank you so much for listening!

Nov 2, 2015

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You know how fear stops you from going out with your friends or trying something new? Those skills and those talents that you have – fear stops you from sharing those with the world. This doesn’t feel good and it’s really upsetting to you. Many times we hate to think that we’re missing out on stuff, so we just say we don’t really care about it and use excuses like, “there’s just no point.” But, there is a point. 

There’s a huge purpose to doing all kinds of stuff. Connecting to other people, experiencing new things, and developing ourselves is what life is all about and we don’t want to miss out on that. 

Here are four things that you could do when you are sick and tired of letting fear stop you in your life: 

1. Commit to getting over your fear. 

It’s deciding that you want to do this and you’re not going to let anything stop you. People all the time overcome their fears, overcome their anxiety or any of these kind of problems. And don’t say that you’re worse than all of them because I swear, you’re not. 

2. Break it down. 

Fear has all kinds of power and its built itself up in your mind and in your life. It builds itself up with all kinds of evidence that you feel is true and tells you you should be afraid. Anxiety gets so invasive in our heads. We have to clarify what we’re afraid of. The anxiety usually doesn’t have too much beyond it and if we break that down we could see that there’s not as much to be afraid of.

3. Take action. 

Do something, even if you’re just pacing back and forth. Go take a walk or pace, any repeating movement will help you feel better. Take action in terms of contributing to whatever you’re afraid of. Do something that would counter that fear or counter the result of that. When we’re paralyzed in fear or feel helpless, the fear just gets bigger. We have to take some action to help it go down. 

4. Love yourself through it. 

This is not something to beat yourself up about. It happens to all of us. This is something so many people feel and you can feel better. I’ve got myself over the worst anxiety that I ever heard of. I loved myself through it, so I want you to love yourself through it too. 

If you do these four things, commit to it, break it down, take action and love yourself through it, you will find that you are going to get better.

Thank you so much for listening!

Oct 26, 2015

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Fire is a powerful way to have a ritual, but also it is metaphoric. Destroying one thing, so something else can bloom and grow. Rituals can really help you release anything that you'd like let go of so you can finally be free of it. If we want to decide something or change something, a ritual helps us create a new commitment for ourselves. 

Take some time for yourself and think about what you would put in this bag. What do you want to pray for? What do you want to let go of?

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Lost in a sea of fear and doubt? The Map to Whole Peace: Move Past Your Past!

Other people tell you what to do. I show you!

• Move on from troubled past experiences

• Recognize and dismiss self-judgment

• Overcome fears

• Practice compassion 

• Understand forgiveness 

• Improve relationships

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Oct 21, 2015

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Bullying is a really huge problem in many people's lives. When bullies come and start to tell us things, we start to repeat them in our own minds because we have our own doubts. When people say things they touch buttons that are already there. 

There are some things you can do to get yourself through it and I share them in my Periscope today. Remember, you are good enough. Make sure that you find someone who can support you through this. 

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Lost in a sea of fear and doubt? The Map to Whole Peace: Move Past Your Past!

Other people tell you what to do. I show you!

• Move on from troubled past experiences

• Recognize and dismiss self-judgment

• Overcome fears

• Practice compassion 

• Understand forgiveness 

• Improve relationships

FREE ebook. How to let go and move on from your past:
http://jodiaman.com/themap/

Thank you so much for listening!

Oct 19, 2015

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Sometimes when teens are starting to have their independence, they get a little bit overwhelmed with obligation and responsibility. And they're highly motivated to resist those things.

These are some things that you have to do to get your child motivated. First, have some confidence in them. You have to believe that they can do it so that they can believe that they can do it. Two, you’ve got to be the bridge. They have to start to do stuff for themselves, but you have to be the bridge and encourage them. The third is to teach them that responsibility equals freedom. The more responsible they act the more that they could ask for from you.

The next thing is sleep schedule. Have them sleep at night instead of during the day. If they’re up during the day, everybody’s up and moving and they feel like part of the world. The next thing is the “carrot”, having something that would motivate them. You have to give them something that’s important enough to supersede that “I don’t care”. The last thing is to make little goals instead of big goals. Give your teen little goals that they could accomplish and feel that sense of accomplishment.

I hope these helped you get that teen up and moving and live a happier and healthier life.


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Oct 12, 2015

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What is the meaning of life? I've concluded that this world is about learning.

Experiences can be so scary, but if you look at them symbolically and think about what you can learn from experiences, it makes it a lot different. There's two things that I focus on in my life to help me learn, grow, and live with vitality – challenge and connection.

1. Challenge

Three thousand years ago, people were keen on exploring and expanding their world. They just took a boat out to open sea. They couldn't see land and they didn't know how long they'd be sailing.
They took these risks because they liked to be challenged.

2. Connection

We all want to be connected with each other. We're social beings. People who are really isolated don't have a sense of self and end up being depressed and very anxious. We're all about having relationships with other people, and those relationships reflect back that good in us. Obviously, if we have relationships with people who are mean to us, it’s not really helpful and makes us feel really terrible. But, if we have relationships with people who lift us up, that is the meaning of life.


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Oct 2, 2015

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Watching your child suffer with Anxiety is heartbreaking. Let’s get them better!

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I have never felt so helpless as I do when my children are anxious. You know, I see that they are physically safe, but know that in their little struggling minds, they don't feel so safe. In fact, they feel the opposite of safe and this is painful and overwhelming.

As parents, it is our job to keep our children safe. But how can we save them from their own minds?  

Here are 7 ways you can help your child overcome their anxiety:

1. Model confidence and calmness.

Listen. Children take their cue from you. My daughter often worries about being picked up from school -- as if I would forget her. Each time, I explain why I trust myself to pick her up and tell her what the school would do to keep her safe if I didn't. Once, she said to me, "You are never worried about anything." I told her to look at my face when she is worried. "Only if I am worried, do you need to be." Her fears are huge to her, but they wane when she can't convince me to be afraid.

2. Have confidence in them.

Be confident that your children are OK, even if they have anxiety. Anxiety is just an experience, and every event with anxiety is merely an opportunity to get rid of it. Remind your kids of the skills and knowledges you see in them that have helped them shrink their anxiety. This will help them to step into those skills more readily. Confidence, like worry, is contagious. You'll want this to pass on.

3. Talk out their fears.

Children's anxieties loom much larger when they don't say them out loud. Kids worry that if they talk about them, they might get worse. Usually, they get better. Inside the mind, worries are ten times as scary. Sometimes kids are angry or disinterested and don't realize that it is an anxiety causing the problem. If they could name it, it helps immeasurably, so ask questions. Then you can reassure them, or laugh at how silly the worry is.

4. Personify the anxiety.

Kids often feel that anxiety is part of their identity. This makes them feel more out of control. Giving the worries a separate identity keeps the child's identity intact. It helps kids feel empowered because now they are not fighting themselves. "Out there," the anxiety looks different and is less scary. Sometimes this is all you need to do.

5. Convince him or her that he or she need not be afraid.

For example, if they are afraid of you getting sick, list for them the things you do to keep yourself healthy. This will work best when you are convinced. Do your own work first. Your child's fear often reflects your fears. (Our children often live out our issues.) Work on convincing yourself you need not be afraid. This will help them more than anything.

6. Take action.

Action conquers fear. Helplessness makes us feel out of control. Giving them something to do can help them counter fear. For example, in response to tragedy, making food or another donation can replace helplessness with helpfulness, giving children confidence.

7. Make them do hard things.

Our protection instinct has us wanting to save them from struggle. But this often lets fear win. When your child does not choose to do something because of fear, it is sometimes important to push them to do it. This is your job as their parent to teach them they can be confident in themselves by doing things they don't want to do (or are too scared to do).

Love helps all fear. Whatever you do, it is most important to trust yourself, trust your child, and stay connected. Our kids are going through their own spiritual journeys, and they are going to have struggles because this is what helps them grow. As parents, we cannot save them from every problem. They have to experience problems to learn skills for dealing with worse ones that may come later.

Love them through their struggles and trust that they will be okay. Struggles are just experiences of the mind. All of it is recoverable.  

Things happen to us, but we get through. Teach your children skills and let them have their experiences. You can still be there to love and gently (and sometimes not so gently) guide them.


Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 18, 2015

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Some of you have keys on your keychain and you don't even know what they're for anymore. Sometimes we hang on to problems the same kind of way. One thing that we often confuse holding on to crumbs with is our self-worth. 

When somebody hurts me, I sometimes get really obsessed with it and have conversations with that person, fantasizing that I'm getting validation back. This is what we're looking for. We're looking for validation that it wasn't okay, some kind of acknowledgement. 

If we let go without that acknowledgement, it feels like we're not worthy of being treated well, so we hold on to stuff to make sure it wasn't okay someone did something to hurt us.

When something bad happens or someone is mean to us, we often blame ourselves. These kinds of situations are really chaotic and our mind wants to make sense of them. The fastest way to do that is to go to blame and we tend to blame ourselves. 

Really, at the same time as knowing that someone hurt us, and that's invalidating, we're invalidating ourselves. Instead, we could start by validating ourselves by understanding that it wasn't okay someone did something hurtful. 

The most important thing you can do is allow yourself to feel hurt. Once you allow yourself to be hurt, you’ll feel validated and it is easy to let go.


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Sep 16, 2015

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Summary:

 

Building your self-confidence is a skill that you can learn. It's something that you can build if you work on it. The most important thing that you can do to build your self-confidence is practice. If you try something and practice it then you build confidence in yourself in doing it. 

 

One of the best things you could do to build your self-esteem and self-confidence is commit to something small every day that you could definitely do. Then every day you do it, and you see yourself committed to that thing, that's going to build your self-esteem naturally. 

 

The second thing you can do to build your self-confidence is use affirmations like, “it's possible that there could be something good about me.” When you repeat the affirmation, you begin to build your self-confidence.

 

The third thing is to hang out with people who see the good in you and surround yourself with people who are uplifting and happy and can reflect back the wonderful person that you are. 

 

Try these three ways to build confidence in yourself and see what opens up for you. 

 

Thank you so much for listening!

Sep 14, 2015

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Why you think it is so hard to feel -- There are many reasons we don't want to feel a feeling, but it usually leads back to guilt and fear. 

 

Thinking something is wrong with what we feel can cause so many problems in our lives. An unfelt, unresolved feeling, especially one we judge to be pathological can reek havoc on our emotions, relationships, and identity.

 

The stories about the feelings and what happened –  blaming ourselves and blaming others – that fill our head, have us run away from feelings. This is why it takes so long to heal. We think a feeling is unbearable, yet we are willing to endure years of self torture with stories of blame, fear, and guilt cluttering our minds.

 

When we allow ourselves to feel, without the story, just feel, it can go away faster than you ever imagine. I'll explain in this podcast.

 

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Sep 11, 2015

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There are four ways that creativity helps the brain and I encourage everybody to take on something creative in their life.

 

1. Physically

Pain starts in the brain rather than the joints or muscles. When people are engaging in a creative activity or social activity, they experience less pain.

It also stimulates those parts of the brain that we need stimulating to help us recover from our past.

 

2. Mentally

Doing something takes up that mental space from other stressful things that are often going through our minds.

 

3. Emotionally

When we do something creative, we see the product of our labors and can fell good about it. This helps us trust ourselves and raises our self-esteem.

 

4. Spiritually

Engaging in something creative helps us live out our life purpose. It helps us realize the gifts that we have and share them with the world. We become more connected and more purposeful in our life and this helps us mind, body and soul. This changes the way we see the world and the way we see ourselves.

There are so many creative ways to heal your brain physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Try something easy today.

Me? I garden, write, schedule my family's social activities, keep my house organized, and make herbal remedies and shoot and edit videos.


What creative projects are you involved in?

 

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Sep 9, 2015

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The fear of flying is a pretty common fear, but to me, it was my dirty little secret. I looked at all of my anxiety that way, finding it humiliating to be afraid.  

 

Well, I found out that I wasn’t a wimp. And if you are scared of something, I don’t think you are a wimp either. I just had to break a habit and I can show you how.

 

We can create situations of fear or pleasure by our thoughts, feelings and expectations. Why choose fear? 

 

Now it is time for you to have an adventure. Where would you go if you weren’t afraid to fly? 

 

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Sep 7, 2015

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When our kids have anxiety, we often feel helpless, which makes us feel anxious! You can help them feel better using the suggestions in this episode.

To review:

1. Help them feel empowered
2. Offer a carrot
3. Have confidence in them
4. Get them in the door
5. Ease test and performance anxiety

School Anxiety is recoverable! I’ve seen people get over it all the time. 

If you have had trouble with school anxiety or anxiety about going anywhere, what tips can you give other readers? 

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Sep 4, 2015

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If you're not happy in your relationship, it affects your mind, body and soul. Here's four questions you can ask yourself to get started in thinking about your future. 

1. Am I staying because I don't want to be alone? 

We always think that it's this person or nothing. That's just not the case. The other possibilities are unknown and scary but definitely not nothing. 

2. I am beating myself up? 

Do you feel like you failed? Making a conscious decision to leave a relationship, or to stay, doesn't mean failure. Stop judging yourself because that just makes this situation a whole lot harder.

3. Am I afraid about what other people think? 

If people react badly to you breaking up with someone that they love, it's more about their emotional issues than it is about you. You can't change people so don't worry too much. 

4. Are there power issues? 

This could be very subtle or outwardly violent. You want to get yourself some support so you could see the situation in a different way.

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Sep 2, 2015

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Summary of podcast:

We all get angry sometimes.

Anger freaks people out. They don't want to feel it anymore and they feel like that's not the way they want to be in the world.

The way to get rid of your anger is to allow yourself to feel angry. There's always a reason for it. Somebody hurt you or somebody wasted your time or disrespected you. What happens is, we get angry and then we judge ourself about it. 

Do you know what that does? That just makes it more powerful over us. If you allowed yourself to feel and understood your original anger as totally appropriate, then you'd have compassion for yourself. This changes anger. It dissipates.

When we're angry, we are upset about something that is precious to us that has been lost or threatened. If you know what this is and acknowledge and validate it, then your anger dissolves.

Having compassion yourself is the key.

When you allow anger, you stop holding on to it. And in this way, you're letting that you, that you want to be, shine through.

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Aug 17, 2015

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Summary:

 

About a year ago, I made a video about OCD and it caused a lot of controversy because I think people didn't understand it. I've been working with people with OCD for a really long time and I've known a lot of people really close to me that have obsessions and compulsions that lead them to do patterns. 

 

Sometimes they're just doing patterns and it's mildly annoying and other times it is so annoying and overwhelming that it takes up a big portion of their lives.

 

This causes a huge amount of suffering. 

 

People come and go into this state of being. Often people stay in it for a really long time and it gets worse, and there's less and less they feel they can do in their lives. What I notice about all of these people is that there's something that drives that. 

 

Usually it's guilt and shame. 

 

I understand this because I see this as the root of so many problems in our life -- fear, guilt, and shame. If we really unpack them, these roots are under all of our problems -- all of them. So why wouldn't they be the root of OCD?

 

What I started to notice when I'm working with people with OCD and OCPD is that there's this guilt and shame about doing their patterns. Then, they get really frustrated, overwhelmed, and hate the fact they have this problem. This frustration and overwhelm is bigger in energy than the original pattern, which makes them more obsessed. 

 

The more we pay attention to something because we're frustrated with it, the more energy we give it, and the more obsessed we get with it. If we can get rid of some of that shame and guilt about doing the patterns, we can cut them down exponentially. 

 

Guilt and shame feeds the OCD. It gives it more power. Many people are angry and get really shamed about it, which increases their anger. They do this before they even realize it, so they just think they have an anger problem. 

 

When I'm working with people, we ultimately want to stop their patterns, but first I want to take away the guilt and shame about doing them. When we take the energy out of the pattern and obsession, people stop them so much easier than when they’re addressing it, trying to get themselves to stop. 

 

Of course some patterns do hurt or harm you, so we want to stop those. But those little patterns that just drive you nuts, like making sure all of the drawers are closed or flipping the light on and off ten times -- you're not hurting anybody. Right now, try to take the guilt and shame out of it and see if you could take the power out of it. 

 

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Aug 14, 2015

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In this podcast I speak about 5 ways to bring out that love and connection that you so desperately want from your significant other. 

These help in any kind of relationship because they make people feel good. And when people feel good, they feel close and happy and want to be with you more and more. 

Please share because we want everyone in the world to have an uplifting and loving relationship! 

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Aug 12, 2015

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My Five Rules To Life:

1. Do hard things
2. Make people important
3. Step back
4. Take risks
5. Be creative

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Aug 10, 2015

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I believe we all have the ability to reach beyond our experiences. To grow and open our mind rather than keep living our negative story. 

 

You are amazing and beautiful and worthy.

 

I know things are hard, but they don’t have to stay hard. Life has loads of beautiful things to offer. You deserve them. 

 

Stick with me, I have more to share to help you continue to bloom into the being your called to be. You are in there, it’s time to shine through. 

 

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Aug 7, 2015

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Ways To De-Clutter Your Home:

1. Touch things once
2. Two hands in, two hands out
3. Do your dishes as you go along
4. Complete projects
5. Deliver right away
6. Let go of perfectionism
7. Limituse of coupons
8. Make recycling easy

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